It's our Anniversary [ F O U R ] years

Today Chaz and I will are celebrating our  F O U R [ 4 ] year anniversary. Hard to believe it's been four years, since a frigid night in Charlotte I asked him out! Yes I asked him out and him being the man he didn't confirm it until later on the next day!  With any relationship you have ups, downs, good times and bad. I appreciate everything that he has done and continues to do for me. Although I'm not the easiest cookie to get along with sometimes he still puts up with me and I love him forever and a day for that. So here are a few things that I think help our relationship work...I'm not saying these are the golden rules to a relationship just what works for us.

The above photo's were taken a few weeks ago by the same photographer that took my best friends wedding pictures. They came out great (beside us hating the way we look...weight wise)! 

GOD FIRST // First and foremost, God is the center of our relationship. We go to our knees in prayer before anything else when we have trials or triumphs and that will always be the case. We both came into this relationship knowing how important our faith is and fully knowing it would be the foundation to our lifetime together. We both are continuously working to grow closer to God and ask him first for help in our relationship. 


ALONE & TOGETHER TIME // We both truly love spending time together but it's important to have alone time or with our separate friends. Whether it's him going out to watch a game with the boys or me having a mani date with a girlfriend, we acknowledge that's key and healthy so we make sure to have those times!


GIVE & TAKE // This is pretty self explanatory but we both had a hard time making this happen in the relationship. It shouldn't be one sided where one person is always giving, giving, giving. It's a two way street and each party should have the desire to give and receive. You have no idea how hard it is for me to give up control at times, but it may not be much but it's thoughtful and impactful too. I'm learning because there are some things that he puts up with and does for me that he may not necessarily like. 


BEING COMFORTABLE // Chaz and I are so comfortable with each other until it's not even funny. There are certain things he does that will have me in tears and some in disgust (the same goes for me). He also knows my deepest darkest fears and my dreams and aspirations. If you aren't comfortable with your partner then you really don't know them, especially if you want to spend the rest of your life with them. 

 It takes LOVE. TRUST. RESPECT UNDERSTANDING, FRIENDSHIP AND FAITH in your relationship to make it last. 

Hope these tips and thoughts help! 

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Birthday Cake

Wow!  I knew it had been a while since I had posted to the blog, but I didn’t think it had been this long.  Soooo let's play catch up in August I celebrated my 28^th birthday!!  I had a small birthday dinner the weekend before with a few good friends and family. I always want to do something big and grand for my birthday(s) but over the years I’ve realized that friends that are reliable are few and far between. I always work myself up because I invite people that I feel are my friends but they never show or give some excuse as to why they can’t come. I’ve realized people make time for whom and what they want to and I’m just not one….and I’m okay with that. Sorry about that tangent I went off on. But we went to dinner had drinks shared some laughs and called it a night.  Chaz and I went to the outlets and did some shopping and went to dinner and ended the night lying in the hotel bed watching football. Great night huh!?! I enjoyed it and spent time with those that really mattered so it was perfect for me.   Plus I realized just how close to the 3-0 I am. It put into perspective that I've still got a few things to do in my 20's that I haven't done yet! Let the countdown begin to 30. 

College Football season is here and U of SC has some disappointed fans. Prior to the season they predicted us to go all the way. I had confidence that our team was going to do something this year. But being a Gamecock fan from the beginning of my life I knew that they would build us up with excitement just to let us down.  We lost our first game of the season to Texas A&M. There was some sore loser in Willy B that night! We beat Georgia and lost to Missouri and Kentucky….you know our fans are really mad now. Chaz reads the message boards and the whole time I’m saying I don’t want to hear it. I know the fans are mad and upset but come on…you hype these guys and coaches up as if they are the President of the United States. This goes to their heads …. No you aren’t the baller that you think you are and if you aren’t making plays or catches that you should be then you shouldn’t get recognized for anything. For any kind of recognition you should be outstanding on and off the field.  

Hair Before Cutting it

About two weeks ago I decided to go ahead and cut my hair. I gave into the creamy crack addiction. My hair was breaking off around the edges, my weave was nappy and I was over spending ridiculous amounts of money on natural hair care products.  When we relaxed it and washed it out. I thought my hair was longer than what it was, so I wasn’t too disappointed or emotional when she started to cut it. We decided that we would add some color to cover up my premature gray hair. So now I’m a red, blond, brunette…but it shows up as red. At first I was like OMG WTF… YIKES, because I thought it was going to be the ghetto red but it doesn’t stand out that much. The reactions at work were good; my boss stared at me majority of the day. He said it would take some getting use to! Then he proceed to tell me his hair journey.   Right now, I’m pretty happy with the change. I just want to make the color more permanent so I can start doing my hair at home more (washes and deep conditions).

NEW CUT

People think I was crazy to go back to creamy crack when I’ve been natural for over a year. Natural isn’t for everyone. When I started my hair was short and uneven so weaves became my best friend all over again so it would grow. It finally started to grow and I did bantu knots and it didn’t come out the way I expected it so It was right back in a weave I went. Plus I was always concerned as to what people at work would think. I work in blue collar (mostly white) male dominated work place, they would have no idea what I was going through if I would have showed up with my natural hair out.  For now I’m dedicating myself to getting my hair back healthy, with relaxers.  I think I’m going to keep this short style for a while—at least until after the New Year.

I promise the next post won’t be in three months. It will be within a few days. I have a few things brewing in this beautiful mind of mine.

Hope all my readers are doing great!