It's our Anniversary [ F O U R ] years

Today Chaz and I will are celebrating our  F O U R [ 4 ] year anniversary. Hard to believe it's been four years, since a frigid night in Charlotte I asked him out! Yes I asked him out and him being the man he didn't confirm it until later on the next day!  With any relationship you have ups, downs, good times and bad. I appreciate everything that he has done and continues to do for me. Although I'm not the easiest cookie to get along with sometimes he still puts up with me and I love him forever and a day for that. So here are a few things that I think help our relationship work...I'm not saying these are the golden rules to a relationship just what works for us.

The above photo's were taken a few weeks ago by the same photographer that took my best friends wedding pictures. They came out great (beside us hating the way we look...weight wise)! 

GOD FIRST // First and foremost, God is the center of our relationship. We go to our knees in prayer before anything else when we have trials or triumphs and that will always be the case. We both came into this relationship knowing how important our faith is and fully knowing it would be the foundation to our lifetime together. We both are continuously working to grow closer to God and ask him first for help in our relationship. 


ALONE & TOGETHER TIME // We both truly love spending time together but it's important to have alone time or with our separate friends. Whether it's him going out to watch a game with the boys or me having a mani date with a girlfriend, we acknowledge that's key and healthy so we make sure to have those times!


GIVE & TAKE // This is pretty self explanatory but we both had a hard time making this happen in the relationship. It shouldn't be one sided where one person is always giving, giving, giving. It's a two way street and each party should have the desire to give and receive. You have no idea how hard it is for me to give up control at times, but it may not be much but it's thoughtful and impactful too. I'm learning because there are some things that he puts up with and does for me that he may not necessarily like. 


BEING COMFORTABLE // Chaz and I are so comfortable with each other until it's not even funny. There are certain things he does that will have me in tears and some in disgust (the same goes for me). He also knows my deepest darkest fears and my dreams and aspirations. If you aren't comfortable with your partner then you really don't know them, especially if you want to spend the rest of your life with them. 

 It takes LOVE. TRUST. RESPECT UNDERSTANDING, FRIENDSHIP AND FAITH in your relationship to make it last. 

Hope these tips and thoughts help!